Isaac,
Your desire to pursue ROTC in college and follow on to serve as an officer/pilot in the ANG/AFRES is doable but not the most common path. What do I mean by that? The name ROTC can be misleading…typically, ROTC cadets are training to receive commissions as officers into the Active Duty AF (the path I took, BTW). Choosing ROTC and then entering the Active component is a great path to achieving your dreams. After your initial active duty service commitment is completed (10 yrs after UPT) you can transfer to the reserve component.
There are ways for ROTC graduates to direct commission into the reserve components but these are small, uncommon programs and they require a unit to commit to hiring you ahead of time.
Now, you need a college degree in order to become an officer/pilot. There are several ways to pursue this:
1. Just do college normally/on your own and fund it however you can (scholarships, family help, working on the side, etc). Then, apply to ANG/AFRES units after college and, if selected, that unit will send you to OTS before UPT.
2. Enlist in a ANG/AFRES unit and use their tuition assistance benefit to help pay for some or all of college. Yes, some of your enlisted military training can count towards your degree but that really depends on the university and the degree you are pursuing. I’d recommend asking ahead of time where/how you might get more credits from AF training if you’d like to shorten the college degree requirements. Enlisted members earn part-time income, gain valuable military experience and can have some/all of their college costs paid for. Also, if the unit you join is also the unit you want to fly in, you can establish a foot in the door with the hiring teams before even applying.
I didn’t bring up your personal status (married w/ child). Regardless of the path you choose, you will be busy tackling these challenges and being a stand-up husband and father! I wish you the best.
Cheers,
Snip