Hey Douglas,
Congratulations on the daughter!
When it comes to getting a fighter slot, a lot comes down to whether you want to go guard/reserve or active duty. Active duty will be more class rank and what’s available at the time you get through UPT. If you can get hired by a guard/reserve unit your chances will be better as they are sponsoring you through pilot training. Obviously nothing is guaranteed, you can get anywhere along the process and lose your slot, I say that just to manage expectations.
Once you figure out which route you want to take you’ll have to start prepping for the different tests that are required regardless of which route you take.
Good luck!
GROM